Dear Daisy, GNamer Romantic Mishaps Thread

Enjoy the time it takes to find out, sir!

That's great, Drunka! I hope things go well for you both.

All going to end in well hopefully not but I'm worse case scenario kinda bloke.

How's everyone's love life going are we still all so lonely.

Anyway there is this girl I like, whom I'm gathering is now single based of posts on her Facebook.

I don't know much about her but as you can gather, I am friends with her on FB and that's about.

So any advice to talk to her, so far I've got find out hobbies & personality (she could be a right douche) which is fine but need to talk to her in the first place.

The other bit I got was message her something random, like I know she plays Final Fantasy XIV and ask her if it's a good time to start playing before the expansion & go from there.

Heya, how are you?

Done that actually after being umm bullied (can't think of a better by a friend) and seems to be okay the chat about games and stuff.

Sounds like it did the trick, whether it was bullying or not...

It way just do it you idiot etc

Yeah, just talk to the girl, man.

For about, ooh, a month now, I've adopted a new attitude when it comes to chatting folk up: *%&$ it! Just go over there. And you know what? Ever since that revelation I've become Mr. Popular. Small talk is so easy, yet so effective. Just bee yourself!

Being myself hasn't helped me the last 25 years though

The best advice I ever got - which I've probably already posted somewhere in this thread, but it's pertinent now - was "Be yourself, but not too much". That was good for me because my complete self is a bit madcap, to say the least. You have to be yourself for two reasons: a), because keeping up an act is tiring and you will be found out eventually, and b), if the person doesn't like you for who you are, you don't actually want to be with them in the first place.

ZeroJones wrote:

if the person doesn't like you for who you are, you don't actually want to be with them in the first place.

This so much. It's wise to hold certain craziness back 'til a later date. I do confess that a penchant for Nintendo sits at the bottom of my list of revelations. I know I love it, but people have preconceptions about such nerdery (new word, I'm callin' it.) Though for the most part, if people don't like me/you, then can lump me/you.

I'm so lonely

shanks wrote:

I'm so lonely

How long have you been alone, shanks?

Why you thinking about moving down under for a certain someone, Stu.

Stu_the_great wrote:

shanks wrote:

I'm so lonely

How long have you been alone, shanks?

My last actual serious thing was a couple of years ago

masofdas wrote:

Why you thinking about moving down under for a certain someone, Stu.

Well, according to a Facebook metric, after my partner Debbie, I was most suited to be with Stu. We are keeping each as back-up plans in case something goes wrong.

shanks wrote:

Stu_the_great wrote:

shanks wrote:

I'm so lonely

How long have you been alone, shanks?

My last actual serious thing was a couple of years ago

If it's any consolation, shanks, I've "been around the block" over the years, but I've never actually landed a partner...

oldschool wrote:

masofdas wrote:

Why you thinking about moving down under for a certain someone, Stu.

Well, according to a Facebook metric, after my partner Debbie, I was most suited to be with Stu.  We are keeping each as back-up plans in case something goes wrong.  

I'm up for it, but I doubt oldschool could handle a spoonful of Stu.

Stu_the_great wrote:

oldschool wrote:

masofdas wrote:

Why you thinking about moving down under for a certain someone, Stu.

Well, according to a Facebook metric, after my partner Debbie, I was most suited to be with Stu.  We are keeping each as back-up plans in case something goes wrong.  

I'm up for it, but I doubt oldschool could handle a spoonful of Stu.

When you say spoon Stu, is it this type of spoon?


One of us looks happier than the other.

Stu_the_great wrote:

shanks wrote:

Stu_the_great wrote:

shanks wrote:

I'm so lonely

How long have you been alone, shanks?

My last actual serious thing was a couple of years ago

If it's any consolation, shanks, I've "been around the block" over the years, but I've never actually landed a partner...

That sucks

My love life, much like the rest of my life, continues to read like the synopsis of a sitcom. I've had interactions of various degrees of intimacy and meaning with a couple of girls; people I've partied with, old friends who've gotten in touch or those I've met online, but though I've enjoyed said interactions I've never felt that really deep connection.

Meanwhile, I still find myself falling back into the same hopeless love with the same girl I'm friends with from work every time we spend any length of time with eachother or talking to each other. I'd literally do anything for her in a heartbeat and, though the degree to which im sure this applies is ever - changing, she does like me back but she's the most confusing and frustrating little ball of shy social awkwardness anyone has ever tried to decode.

Clearly were going to finally become more than friends at either the season one finale or the season 2 midpoint, break up in such a way that we're clearly still in love in early season 3, inexplicably continue to spend time together as friends with a newfound edge of sexual tension and then finally reconnect in the final episode.

Either that or ill meet someone I feel the same incredible connection but who doesn't confuse me so much. Wouldn't that be nice...

Is this available in 1080p

Amusingly, only the first few seasons and the last few. The first few were filmed on film then downgraded for television, then the series began shooting straight to video then the final few were digital.

The nearest thing I have to a lady love at the moment is very similar to yours, Drunka - socially awkward as all hell. I do know she likes me, but (big but) she's asexual. I don't even know what that means in her context: my other asexual friend isn't averse to copulation, just isn't as controlled by it as most. But it is a worry.

Mind you, at least you see yours. Mine lives in sodding Epsom. Anyway, best of luck with her - it would be the best ending if it worked out.

Cheers for the support. Whatever happens, I've gotten a really good friend out of it all. It's just that every now and then little things make me feel like we could be so much more than just friends if I could break down whatever is between us and my heart just wants to smash it's way out of my chest. 17-year-old me would probably have emailed her a horrendous poem expressing my eternal love by this point and scared her a mile away.

You've got a tough one there, balla. I'd give you the same advice I give to myself (before completely ignoring): approach this as a cherished friendship and never expect anything more while making it appropriately clear that you're interested in more if she is. As long as you're upfront with your feelings and respectful of hers, you should be able to avoid burning any bridges.

The problem I have is that while the situation may be one way, in the scenario I'm playing out in my head I'm proposing to my future wife and every time she takes more than a matter of minutes to reply to a text that's a terminator travelling back in time to prevent my future happiness.